Dogging Etiquette and Safety Continued...
Tips for new doggers
- Check out the boards. Visit some online dogging communities or forums and see what is going on.
- Ask questions. A lot of experienced doggers are willing to be helpful if you're sincere and polite. Pay no mind to the jerks.
- Whenever you're meeting people over the Internet, use caution and common sense. Don't be taken advantage of.
- Try to buddy up with a veteran dogger online and have them show you the ropes.
- Remember that many dogging locations are also used by gay men for meetings, and usually they have been using them longer than heteros. We can all get along.
- It may take a few tries to find what you're looking for, so if at first you don't succeed....
For Players and Displayers
- Talk to your partner before the session, and discuss what you expect and want to happen. Decide what you will and won't do, whether you'll invite others to join in, and how you'll decide who you play with.
- Be punctual. Show up where you say you'll be, when you say you'll be there. Don't count on folks hanging around waiting for you, especially someplace out of the way.
- Give accurate directions to the site when arranging meetings. Give an identifier (e.g., the make of your car) if you feel comfortable doing so.
- Bring what you need for safe sex and clean up (condoms, lube, wet wipes). Assemble a kit to keep in the car. See our Dogging Shopping List .
- Give clear signals. Flash your lights or leave the inside light on to invite voyeurs. Roll the windows down if you want them to get closer or join in.
- Don't be reckless. Dogging is a legal grey area. If someone complains, you may get in trouble, so have some discretion in your behavior and choice of location.
- Show your enthusiasm. The more you get into it, the more your audience will enjoy the show, the more you'll enjoy performing. Everyone gets off.
- Know your limits. If a spectator is getting too pushy, tell them to back off. If you or your partner get uncomfortable and need to end the session, don't hesitate to pack it in.
- End on a high note. Finish up with a bang and when the show is over, let the audience know. Thank them for coming (no pun intended) and make your exit.
- Hook up again. If you meet someone you really like, exchange emails or cell numbers so you can contact them for future sessions
- Keep it clean. Properly dispose of all condoms, tissues, wrappers, etc. when you're finished.
Rules for Watchers
- Clean up first. Dirty appearance and smell is a turn-off, so if you plan on joining in with a couple, make yourself presentable
- Don't sneak up on unsuspecting folks. Not every parked couple is looking for attention, so approach with caution.
- Let them warm up. Don't rush over to a couple as soon as they arrive; it makes it hard for them to get started. Wait till the action begins a bit.
- Watch for signals. A flash of the interior light means they want to be watched. A rolled down window is an invitation to get closer and maybe touch. But make sure the couple is actually dogging; they may have just dropped the keys on the floorboard or need fresh air.
- Keep your distance till invited. Don't join in unless the couple asks you to.
- Be appreciative but respectful. No hooting, catcalling, or yelling, "Show us your tits!"
- Don't heckle. If you're not enjoying the scene, then leave. Don't yell at the couples or throw stones.
- Leave if you're asked to. If the couple wants their privacy, don't make an issue of it. Find another spot.
- Don't butt in on another dogger in action. One dogger's luck isn't an open invite to all. Also, it may be a private tryst.
- Mind your headlamps. Use your lights as needed to drive safely, but don't keep the brights on once you reach a scene.
- Don't drive around and around car parks aimlessly looking for action. Know where you're going, and when you get there, have some patience. The action doesn't always start on cue.
- Be a good neighbor. Don't block another dogger's view or box in their car.
- Pick up your trash. Don't leave behind condoms, tissues, wrappers or other rubbish.
- Move along. Once the show is over, don't loiter.